Ally Vacha | #MeToo
“Last night I was standing at the bar waiting to order a glass of water and I happened to smile and engage in a brief, friendly exchange with the stranger standing next to me. Before he walked away, this man took it upon himself to grab and rub my butt. I was wearing soft, loose-fitting pants, so this experience was incredibly invasive for me. I turned around and said, “What the fuck are you thinking? Fuck you.” His response was to smile, wink, and lick his lips before disappearing into the crowd.
This is not the first time something like this has happened to me and it won’t be the last. Let me just make this clear—if a woman speaks to you, this does not give you the right to touch her body. If a woman appears to be intoxicated, this does not give you the right to touch her body. Being at a bar setting does not give you the right to touch a woman’s body. The ONLY thing that gives you the right to touch ANYBODY’s body is their clear & verbal consent.
I realize that these things have been going on since the beginning of time. But if you were wondering why thousands of women are “overreacting” about the fact that we elected a president who condones “grabbing a woman by the pussy” – this is why. Have your pussy grabbed by a stranger a few times when walking through a crowd and maybe then you’ll see why the social and political climate in this country is NOT okay.”
This post by Ally Vacha (@liciarose207) is too important not to share. The Me, Too movement is not an overreaction by women, it is reality. This movement is not over, and it pains me to say that it may never be over. It is still holding strong because thousands of women a day continue to live through experiences that qualify them to say “Me, too”. It is not over because of women, like me, who have endured some sort of unwanted and unjustifiable sexual acts towards them in the past. It is not over because we are living in a political climate that condones the behavior that forces us to scream “ME FUCKING TOO” at the top of our lungs.
So, I am calling on you to stand your ground. Call people out for their demeaning actions. And, if you are comfortable, tell your story. Tell it over and over and over again so that people come to know and understand how often multiple forms of harassment occur in the world around us.
Make it known that it is not okay that you have experienced this trauma.
It is not okay that women continue to endure this trauma daily.
It is not okay.